When “I’m Fine” Isn’t Fine.

For the last few days, I’ve been in Amsterdam, attending lectures with Mindvalley, and soaking in some powerful ideas and big truths. Here’s one of the biggest:

When someone asks how you’re doing, how often do you reflexively say, “I’m fine.” ? Maybe you are. But often, when we say “I’m fine”, we don't mean it.

I'm 100% guilty of this! Just recently when my luggage was lost I found myself saying “I’m fine” because it was easier and more socially acceptable than projecting how I actually felt, “I’m frustrated, annoyed and I am not comfortable communicating it!

What “fine” means is: I’m suppressing what I’m actually feeling so I don’t have to tell you or face it.

It’s easier to tell ourselves (and others) we’re fine than to admit we’re scared, hurt, disappointed, or exhausted. But here’s the problem-the more we bury those truths, the heavier they get.

Suppressing emotions doesn’t dissolve them. It’s like skipping the gym because the workout will be uncomfortable. Sure, you avoid the burn in the moment, but you also avoid the growth and results.

Emotional honesty is the same.

It’s uncomfortable, sometimes painfully so, but it’s the only way to build the emotional strength we crave.

When you ignore what you feel and “soldier on,” you don’t just sidestep discomfort… you cement it. Because what you resist will persist.

The truth is:

Facing your pain is not weakness. It’s the start of resilience.

Naming your discomfort is the first step toward transforming it. Clarity always matters.

The moment you stop lying to yourself, you open the door to every possibility that has been waiting on the other side (Including, a deeper connection to yourself and the person who asked!)

So here’s your challenge today:

When someone asks how you are, give yourself permission to tell the truth, even if it’s messy and uncomfortable, even if it’s just to yourself.

You can’t heal what you won’t feel.

And you can’t elevate to the next level of your life carrying the weight of unspoken truth.

Share this with someone you care about and want to communicate with on an authentic and deeper level.